By Henrik Boyander
Being a senior citizen does not mean that you will
not desire love and romance as well as the companionship that comes
with a relationship. Yet for some seniors it has been a while since
they have been in the mood for a date, and getting back in the game
is not that easy. Here are some smart senior dating tips that will
help you make the transition into dating easy and also safe:
Be honest with yourself about what you want out of a dating
relationship. Do you want a long-term relationship? Are you looking
for a spouse? Do you just want a buddy with whom to hang out or go
places? Are you looking for a sexual relationship with few strings
attached? Once you are certain about what it is that you are looking
for, make sure to also be honest about it to potential mates. Do not
lead someone on who is looking for a serious relationship if you are
not in the game for the same.
If you sign up with a dating serving, be honest about your age and
your looks. If you are bald, say so. If you are 79 years young, say
so. Do not shave 14 years off your actual age and hope that you can
pull off that look when it gets around to meeting your date. If she
or he thinks they are connecting with a 65 year young senior, they
will be very disappointed to meet up with someone who is 79. This
disappointment is probably not because of your age, but because you
have seen it fit to be dishonest.
Similarly, if you are dating online, keep in mind that things might
have changed a bit since you were last in the game. While there have
always been those who sought to prey on unsuspecting seniors,
usually in order to steal their nest egg, now you have to contend
with a whole new crop of thugs: online stalkers. For this reason,
set up a special email address that you will maintain for your
online dating purposes. Do not answer questions about your telephone
number or address, and instead be evasive by listing the next big
city that is close to the city in which you live. When you are
getting to meet up face to face with your Internet beau, do it in a
public setting, and even better, do it as part of a double date.
There is always strength in numbers, and you should plan on meeting
your date with a reliable couple by your side.
Do not discuss financial things, such as your investments or social
security checks. This is information that should be given out on a
need-to-know basis, and an Internet date does not need to know this
information.
If Internet dating seems a bit too modern for your taste, sign up
with your local senior center to learn about their activities. Many
times you will be able to meet up with other seniors who may also be
looking for companionship or love.
Of course, once you are back in the game, you will find that some
things that may have irked you about your spouse for the past twenty
years will also irk you about a new date. Similarly, you may find
that you will slip back into old patterns that you had in your last
long-term relationship. Sometimes these patterns can be comforting,
yet at other times you might have found them annoying then, and so
you will probably also find them annoying now. Therefore, if your
date begins to behave like a cantankerous spouse, and perhaps begins
to criticize your every move, and belittle you to others, do not
feel that you will have to endure this kind of behavior once again,
just for the privilege of having someone new to love or care about.
Instead, kindly, politely, but firmly bid your date farewell and do
not entertain requests for subsequent dates. After all, there really
is no reason to put up with behavior that bothers you or that is
downright rude. You are worth so much more than that, and while it
may be easy to slip into old habits, it most certainly is not
required!
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